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A long overdue update!


Soooo at first I focused on all kinds of ways I could still become a doctor, then I threw myself into working all the time, at which point I realised that if I had started at med school my family life would have really suffered and I’m not sure I would have been happy at all! But, by this point I had got a bit stuck in the rat race of working all the time, for not a lot of money, I wasn’t happy at work, I never had time to do anything and always felt like I wasn’t spending enough time with Jack, so I wasn’t in any better position. 

The original idea of focusing on all the good, fulfilling things I could do now I had the time had gotten lost. Along the way though we decided on having another child, something I did want anyway but didn’t think would be manageable if I went down the doctor route. Shortly after I fell pregnant, at which point I let go of the urgency to find what I was going to do. I fell into a bit of a slum because it felt like I was working all the time in a job I’m not keen on, with no direction. But it gave me time to ponder and think about how I saw my life turning out, about what would make me happy, I also started to realise that not everything needed to happen right now, and that taking time to let things grow and develop would be a lot more beneficial than always panicking that I’m getting older and need to have everything sorted right now. I figured out the things that right now will make me happy and what will probably continue to make me happy in the future; art, family time, my garden, creating our perfect home, finding balance and good health through good food, yoga, meditation and running, as well as exploring Zen Buddhism a bit further. 

I’m taking my time to move towards all this, trying to do it sensibly, maternity leave will give me a good opportunity to break away from my job and work towards this new dream life (which looks a lot nicer than the doctor life to be honest!). For now I’m going to start cutting down my hours to get the house sorted and make space for a new baby, then I’m going to finish work around 30 weeks and start to focus more on building my art skills back up and working on the garden - and essentially taking the time to enjoy all the thing I didn’t have time for before and probably wouldn’t have had time for if I was still on the doctor route! 

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